Here are some of the cues you need to be aware of: Prior History Volatile, unstable relationships that have had a history of break-ups and re-connections are often laden with unresolved issues.

When that happens, they may not be as susceptible to any new relationship.

Secrecy If the separated man is concerned that a new relationship might inflame the other partner’s decision, he may choose to keep that new relationship quiet.

They are at a loss when it happens, but still feel attached to their history, friends, children, financial situation, mutual families, and a deeper caring.

After a time apart, they realize that they want to make the relationship work and are highly motivated to make that happen.

Many people considering divorce are in the throes of conflict and don’t want another source of trouble adding to what is already a difficult situation.

That is especially true if the new relationship can threaten the other partner’s potential access to resources or loss of what they have.

Time Elapsed A new separation is clearly more undefined.

Committed couples often hit major snags in a relationship and lose each other for a period of time.

A partner who may have understood a one-night stand that is immediately confessed is less likely to feel as humiliated as one who finds out much later or when a relationship is more established.

She will likely assume that person was there from the beginning and the reason for the break-up if her partner asked for the separation.

If the separated man isn’t sure about reconnecting with his partner and a new relationship would make that option far less likely, he may not want to lose those choices so chooses to keep his options open by separating those two worlds.