In all social species with pair-bonds, females are attracted to evidence that males display a chance for power in the community.[…]Humans compete less for territory than for rank.People meet each other in many different places, in many different ways. Now I live near a downtown university, which means there’s a seemingly endless stream of cute girls walking down the street whenever I step outside. Start thinking about where you can meet the girl who is right for you. So clearly, just being in a situation where you’re NEAR a lot of girls is not going to get you a girlfriend. Here’s how reality actually works: “Being yourself” is not going to get you a girlfriend. Depressed, insecure about how I looked, little sense of fashion, and unable to even look a cute woman in the eyes for more than 1 second.

The attention of the tribe is a kind of psychic territory where we harvest the resources we cooperative apes need to survive.

He who controls the attention is high status and sexually attractive. When it fully sinks in, it will change the way you see the social world forever.

As long as a girl is cute or attractive, many guys will see her as girlfriend material… The truth is that many shy men can go months or even years without having a girlfriend, dating or even kissing a girl.

Some women claim that shyness is cute and that you should just “be yourself”…

I thought I looked ugly growing up, I was scared to smile because of my slightly crooked front teeth, and I believed my appearance was the reason no girls ever showed interest in me.

And to top it off, for years I was extremely insecure.

You have to put yourself into situations where you have a chance to come in contact with women. If you don’t have many friends or a social circle, then you’ll have to get some or be proactive in other ways. And that’s when the attraction part of our brain was designed by evolution.

Pro tip: check out Meet and see if there’s any events that seem interesting to you. Cavemen who mated with younger women were more likely to have healthy and surviving kids, so now guys are wired to be attracted to younger women in general.

but when they say “shy” they probably mean the strong silent type of guy, not the nervous socially awkward type like I was.

In this article, I’m going to provide you with key pointers to getting the relationship you want.

What would I even do with a girlfriend if I had one?